Enemy becomes him…..
A few months ago, I was having a conversation with a friend who I had not spoken to in a while – so it was a kind of catch up: how is life treating you style of conversation. She started off this conversation sounding a little down, and I probed her further to find out what had occurred to make her feel this way. At work, a complaint had been made against her that was invalid. She took pride in her work, and was always the consummate professional. After further investigation, she found out that the arbitrator of this “invalid” complaint was a former colleague, friend.
This had been a shock, considering that she believed that they were on good terms, although they had not spoken for some time. What was the justification, if any, for this act? (Due to my legal background, I must sound like a lawyer at times).
So what had changed; why does a supposedly friend change to an enemy? Or could it be that this person was not really a friend to begin with, but an acquaintance. Some people believe that they can count on one hand their true friends, and I subscribe to this view. There will be times when you become acquainted with people through work and other activities, and become friendly. People come and go, and impact on your life in different ways. This is part of the journey.
Friends can fall out, take the former celebrity BFF (best friends forever) partnership, Nicole Richie and Paris Hilton, they were best friends growing up, then an incident occurred which resulted in the end of their friendship. It’s understandable that people do change, evolve. Common interests that they once shared may no longer be there, but how about when these people just turn on you, and become your enemies. Was it really a ploy: to keep your friends close, and enemies closer?
Going back to my friend’s story, I have a theory, that this change in attitude could be related to unresolved issues. My friend has always been quite a gregarious, confident and strong character. Their now “frenemie” is the polar opposite, lacking in social skills. Maybe in this instance it stems from the one of the seven deadly sins: “envy”