the “happy” cult

Since last year, 2011, I have been working on myself! It’s amazing how in life we go through different phases from infant to primary school pupil, then comes the later years when we may be at University and soon transitioning into the beginning of our work life; where we need to get serious. Along these timelines we are developing and forming new relationships: BFF (best friends forever); work colleagues; boyfriend or girlfriend relationships.

Going back to the beginning part of the article, we attend and enter the educational system as we are meant to. We form love relationships, as it is part of the human nature to want to be social.

Like with all systems and processes, they can become momentous, routine; before you know it, you can find yourself lost! Talking about Lost, remember that big TV show, where to begin with we did not understand why the characters were on the Island?  Then they woke up, to realise what had happened: how they were stuck in a kind of “purgatory”. During the same year, another British TV series was ending: Ashes to Ashes that was a follow-up to the series “Life on Mars”. The ending had a similar plot to that of Lost.

So why I am a talking about phases, TV shows, purgatory?  I will be coming back to that shortly. Earlier on this year, I wrote an article entitled “Are you Awake?” This was how we can get lost in everyday life, become detached from our own inner-self, self-awareness. What happens when we start to become more self-aware? We can then start to see major shifts in our lives; some positive ones that can increase our inner-peace and happiness. There goes the “h” word – happy! A lot of people when asking them what they would like more of, besides money, is “happiness.”

Some people seek happiness and start their journey, a lot of times, by searching “outward”. How many people have you met who have said: “I am going to find myself.” Or, I want to find love so that I can be “blank”.  Did you guess the missing word, of course “happiness”? Then you get other people who prefer to be unhappy, wanting to dwell on their misery – the dementor.  These people may not even like happy people around them.

I have found from my discoveries that happiness starts from within, not externally.  It is all about “perception”, how you look at events.  Instead of seeing an “undesired” result, see the opportunity to grow, be open to something amazing – finding your Mr/Ms who wants to “grow and share with you”; instead of being “fixated” on that one person who is making you feel insecure and unhappy. (Reference to love, but I am writing a book on that!)

With the shift in perception, some argue that this results in opening your heart to a new way of thinking on life and love, that you seem to be “positive”, a happy “bunny” most of the time. There will be others with their ego shouting: “why are you so positive, there is always one challenge or obstacle that gets thrown in?”  I saw this question poised on a recent forum: “how can a deal with others around me who do not understand how I have found a “truth”? I described this feeling of people thinking that you have joined “the happy cult.” Singing: “Kum Ba Yah, My Lord. Kum Ba Yah.”

We are all going on our own journey at our own pace; needing to come to our own realisations. For example, if you are unhappy deciding that you want to change this state. No one else can do this work for us, as it our “truth”. I would reply to those chants asking why I am happy, “yes I am, sending out my love to you”.


Omertà : My response to the Yahoo article

Today, an article will be unveiled in the world wide web (www), one that it very close to home. This is because it is about me. It tells about a time gone by, a period where I was going through a relationship that was negative, and there was other external factors. But is this not, usually a pattern of how external factors can be influenced by internal emotions?

You may wonder the reason for the title of this article, Omertà. It is Italian and refers to “code of honour”, and if you have watched the mafia movies such as the  Godfather, you would have seen a community that kept silent about certain things because it was the done thing – not to talk about them. Why was this? Was it to do with the typical English “stiff upper lip”, grin and bear it? Or was it shame? Before this article was to be published I had the opportunity to view it; and although I agreed to take part in the interview it was shocking to see the results in “black and white”. This had been my life, a period of time which I have now moved on from. So, began, the emotional turmoil as I was temporarily shifted back to that time. I called upon a good friend who is based in Canada, who I have known since my school days, to discuss the article. She too had a preview, a taster. She made a the comment about how it is good to get my story out there, along with the journalist, that it would “inspire” other people that they can change a “negative” situation. My initial worries were that I did not want to come across wanting sympathy and pity. It was not retaliation against the “wrongdoer”.

After all I do believe in “positivity”, motivation and “inspiration”. The What’s Stopping You campaign is my baby. Talking about inspiration, my writing is inspired by everyday life; the people that I met; experiences that I have had; added with humour. This has been a year of the shift, where people are starting to become more aware of adding “heart” and “spirituality” into their lives. Maybe you may not have felt this; and I’m feeling these “vibrations” more. The point is that people want to connect, not just to their “inner-voice” but other people. For a while this would probably be through the medium of watching a TV soap, reading a piece of fiction, hearing the radio gossip of the latest celebrity “shenanigans”. But now people are seeking answers in self-help books. I have read quite a few – so would say, why not. I believe that there is revolution going on “real-life” stories.